Note 13 at 1Co 13:5: In other words, "doth not behave itself unseemly" is saying that God's kind of love always behaves itself. God's type of love will never drive a person to behave improperly. Anyone who claims to be motivated by God's love and yet is acting contrary to God's Word is lying. God's Word and His love agree.

The world operates in an emotional love that overwhelms and often drives them to do acts that they don't want to do. Hollywood has convinced many people that love forces some people to commit adultery. They don't want to do it, but they "fall in love." They can't control themselves.

But God's kind of love is not that way. God's type of love often involves emotions, but it is not an emotion. It is an act of the will. We can choose to love even when we don't feel like it (see note 2 at 1Co 13:1), and we can always conduct ourselves in a godly manner, even when we do feel God's kind of love.

Paul told Titus to have the older women in the church at Crete teach the younger women to love their husbands and their children (Tit 2:4). What a radical concept. Most believe that people fall in love and out of love, but they can't choose to love; it's either there or it's not. However, God's kind of love is a choice.

Jesus didn't feel some emotional sensation when He chose to die for us, but that was the greatest demonstration of God's kind of love that the world has ever seen. He made a choice in spite of His emotions (see note 5 at Joh 12:27). Because He was consumed with God's love, He acted properly, even when His emotions didn't agree.

Note 14 at 1Co 13:5: This ("seeketh not her own") is another reference to the fact that God's kind of love is not self-serving or self-seeking. "AGAPE" love (see note 3 at Ro 12:10) will cause people to lay down their lives for others (Joh 15:13), because they have literally forgotten themselves. Many times, when heroes are asked why they put themselves in jeopardy to save someone else, they reply that they didn't even think about themselves; all they thought of was the danger to the other person. That's God's kind of love.

Therefore, God's kind of love is the antidote to selfishness and pride. We cannot conquer self by focusing on self. The only way to win over self is to fall in love with God more than with ourselves. It is in discovering God's love that we lose self-love.

Note 15 at 1Co 13:5: Those who have short fuses are not operating in God's kind of love. When people are walking in God's kind of love, they are easy to get along with. God's kind of love does not carry a chip on its shoulder.

Note 16 at 1Co 13:5: God's kind of love is positive. It focuses on the good things in others and in situations. God's kind of love is "wise unto that which is good, and simple concerning evil" (Ro 16:19). God's kind of love thinks on "whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things" (Php 4:8).