Note 10 at Eph. 5:26: This verse is saying that the way the Lord sanctifies and cleanses us is through His Word. The Word of God is the water that cleanses (see ref. d at this verse). Jesus spoke of the Word cleansing us in John 15:2-3 (see note 48 at Jn. 15:2, p. 496).

Note 11 at Eph. 5:26: Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for it. He set it apart and cleansed it by His Word. The Greek word used here for "word" is RHEMA and means the spoken word. What a wonderful illustration this is of setting your wife apart by honoring her with your words. Your wife will try to live up to that which you speak over her. If your words are words that edify and build her up, she will want to live up to those words. If your words are words that tear her down, you will discourage her and cause her to be unresponsive in your relationship.